Why is marriage so complicated?

Get that old thang back

It seems like the end of 2011 and the beginning of 2012 was the straw that broke the camels back for some couples.. I heard more “we’re getting divorced” stories than I’ve ever heard in my life. Funny thing is when people go through ups and downs you tend to look at your own marriage. For me its a time to be thankful for what I have and also fine tune some things that may have been unattended. Life has it’s way of moving you along. You dont realize things happen until it gets brought to your attention. When it does and its something that you have neglected its had to take ownership. Replenish the lingerie draw, invest in matching underwear, and stop pulling your hair back. May sound simple enough, but trust me once you get into a habit it’s hard to break it.

Marriage is what you make of it

I use to say if you’re unhappy fix it. Communicate. What do you do if you’ve communicated your issues for years and nothing changed? At some point choices have to be made and ties have to be cut. For some people divorce is the only option. When you no longer love the person you are with, if you are doing that person more harm than good, or if your future isn’t part of your partners story than its time. Some people benefit from divorce. I know my husband did. I knew him before he divorced and after. I can honestly say divorce was the best thing that happened to him. I wont take any credit for his happiness. Some people just dont belong together. If you can’t look at your spouse and see yourself with them in 20 or 30 years, if you can’t imagine the two of you shuffling off to IHOP for the senior special. You definitely need to re-evaluate your life and the persons life you are holding hostage.

~Mocha