Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Racism in America?? Really?

Really?? I don’t think I get shocked as easy as so many others. The New Yorker mag cover is just one of those tasteless ways to say “We’re not racist, we’re just being real”.. The sad thing is that in so many eyes the picture is true, it’s believable.. It’s ok. It’s like the N word. We know it’s being said with a racist under tone. But, because we are a Country who prides itself on Amendments, we lift freedom of Speech above everything else.

I don’t cringe at the off colored jokes about race. Especially when it’s about mixed folk. Why?.. Truth of it is most Bi-racial people have heard every off colored joke, are use to the stares, could careless about under-your-breathe remarks.. What surprises me more is that the originality has worn away.. I remember being in High School and this one white guy said something to me that made me stop in my tracks.. He said “I wonder what God thought when he created you.” My response was “that’s original.. Thank you”.. The fact that my Husband gets up in arms with some of these Conservative talk shows, lets me know yeah you had no clue huh… He gets upset about the halfrican.. or the whitegro labels.. He looks at me and I simply say “Heard it before”..

Most people deal with racism coming from the opposite race… Imagine everyone every race trying to fit you a light skinned girl into one category.. “Are you from Louisiana?” And then they see your mom..lol.. or they start pulling you apart “I never knew black people could have freckles”.. and then the moment you knew would come “Who’s white in your family?” and of course the famous…“Can I touch your hair?” Ever since the age of 7… Because America is so color struck, you’re either or..

I was born and raised in Mainz, Germany.. My Oma (grandmother) had 7 kids.. my mom was the youngest.. Out of 14 Grand kids I was the only Bi-racial one… You know the saying kids are color blind.. it’s true.. I never knew it was something wrong with being Black until I moved to America.. Why do most Bi-racial people who have a black parent identify with their black side? Well you and everyone around you would think I was crazy if I went around saying I’m white… We do it because it’s bad enough people stare when you have family outings.. and if most Bi-racial people are like me… We want comfort… I decided who I was comfortable being.. I have a picture of me dressed up like an Indian at age 5 for Halloween and my cousins were cowboys.. I remember my oldest cousin getting mad because he wanted to be the Indian because I had a bow and arrow.. I wasn’t the Indian because my skin was darker.. I was an Indian because GIRLS weren’t Cowboys.. I remember my mom NOT being able to control my hair..lol.. So I had an Afro pretty much until I was 6.. My Aunt on my Dad’s side came to Germany before our move to the States.. and introduced my mom to Grease and water using a hard brush… And the ponytail was born..lmao..

My mom handled racism the way I do now. I learned from my mom people will say and do anything negative when it’s not understood. The way my mom handled black women especially made me understand women in general.. I don’t have my moms temper..lol.. She was quick to curse you out in German… I think once Black women realized my dad didn’t just marry a white woman.. Not some trailer trash scank…not some wanna be black woman with bad grammar and a Salt-n-Pepa hair style..he married a European woman… That’s what I love about my mom.. She wasn’t one of these I think I’m black…loud.. I got a mixed child so that automatically makes me entitled to a neck roll and a finger snap women… She was educated…Now because my mom lives in Southern Mississippi her accent is more of a Southern drawl with a twist..lol.. That is until she speaks German…

All in all America is a melting pot. The thing of it is.. It’s a melting pot that White America thought they controlled.. The Minority has now made the then Majority think twice… So it’s understandable to see why so much racism is coming out now… The one thing White America controlled is being taken.. and what else do you do when something you owned is being taken by they very people you controlled at one point in time… You make everyone around you remember…even though we have come up.. remember who “we“ were.. even though nothing is “white” only any more.. Remember when it was.. So I don’t blame America for it’s feelings about being Bi-racial in America.. Just think in about 100 years being mixed won’t be a big deal… You’ll have your great great grand kids telling there kids my great great great great grandmother and grandfather were both white or were both black… and their kids will be shocked… When we say it’s time for change we literally mean it..

Change.. It’s gonna come like it or not..

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